If you are not yet using your PMDX-107 then the application notes
about setting that up will not work for basic relay control.
For using the K1 relay you should have M3 assigned to an Output
signal such a Output 1, and then assign Output 1 to Port 1, Pin 1.
If this does not help in your situation, please send us a copy of
your XML file so we can see how you have things configured.